Let Go of Regrets and Learn to Forgive Yourself.
Forgiveness is a process. I learned this the hard way by holding onto mistakes and destructive behaviors for years.
The longer I held onto them, the greater the burden they became.
Being able to forgive yourself requires empathy, compassion, kindness, and understanding. It also requires you to accept that forgiveness is a choice.
I would love for you to let go of the burden you might be carrying around so you can learn how to forgive yourself and start to experience some freedom in your life.
Here are 8 tips according to Healthline you can try the next time you want to forgive yourself.
- Focus on your emotions: One of the first steps in learning how to forgive yourself is to focus on your emotions. Before you can move forward, you need to acknowledge and process your emotions.
- Acknowledge the mistake out loud: When you give a voice to the thoughts in your head and the emotions in your heart, you may free yourself from some of the burdens. You also imprint in your mind what you learned from your actions and consequences.
- Think of each mistake as a learning experience: Reminding ourselves that we did the best we could with the tools and knowledge we had at the time, will help us forgive ourselves and move forward.
- Give yourself permission to put this process on hold: If you make a mistake but have a hard time putting it out of your mind, visualize your thoughts and feelings about the mistake going into a container, such as a mason jar or box. Then, tell yourself you are putting this aside for now and will return to it if and when it will benefit you.
- Have a conversation with your inner critic: Journaling can help you understand your inner critic and develop self-compassion. This can help you identify thought patterns that are sabotaging your ability to forgive yourself.
- Get clear about what you want: Ask yourself what you would tell your best friend if they were sharing this mistake, they made with you, and then take your own advice.
- Show kindness and compassion: If your first response to a negative situation is to criticize yourself, it’s time to show yourself some kindness and compassion. The only way to begin the journey to forgiveness is to be kind and compassionate with yourself.
- Seek professional help: If you’re struggling to forgive yourself, you may benefit from talking to a professional. This can help you learn how to break these unhealthy patterns in your life and learn new and healthier ways of coping with mistakes.